Ask Him to Dance — He’s Not That Scary (And Even If He Is, So What?)

Let’s set the scene:You’re at a social. The music is right. You’ve been vibing all night. You see a guy who dances well — your feet are itching to move.

But instead of walking over, you wait.

You hope he sees you. Notices you. Picks you.And if he doesn’t? You sit through the next three songs wishing you had just asked.

Here’s the Hard Truth:

Women are still waiting. And men are still choosing.Even in dance, where things are supposed to be equal, many women feel like asking a guy to dance is “too forward,” “too desperate,” or “too masculine.”But where did we get this idea?

This isn’t 1952, sis.You’re not at a debutante ball waiting to be chosen.You’re at a salsa party. And you came to dance.

But What If I Look Thirsty?

Let’s be real — that’s the fear, right?That you’ll look like you're trying too hard. That he’ll say no. That people will judge.

But guess what?

• Men get rejected too.

• Confidence is magnetic.

• And if a man turns you down respectfully, you move on.If he’s rude about it? He did you a favor.

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3 Reasons to Start Asking:

🔥 1. You’ll Dance More (And Grow Faster) Waiting for leads limits your growth. More dances = more practice = more progress. Simple.

🔥 2. It Flips the Power Dynamic You get to choose who you dance with. No more awkward yeses just to be polite. You’re not there to be chosen — you’re there to connect.

🔥 3. It Challenges Outdated Norms Every time you ask, you’re breaking the idea that women should wait quietly. You’re normalizing mutual desire, mutual initiation, mutual play.

How to Do It Like a Queen:

👑 Eye contact + smile

👑 Walk up confidently — no apology in your posture

👑 Say: “Would you like to dance?” (That’s it. No begging. No drama.)

👑 If he says no — you smile, thank him, and walk away like the goddess you are.

Final Truth?

The floor belongs to you, too.You deserve to dance. To initiate. To lead your own experience.So next time you see a dancer you want to vibe with…

Don’t wait to be picked.Pick him.

You never know what magic that one bold move might unlock.

Curious to hear your experiences. Feel free to share with everyone in the comment section below.

~As always, happy dancing!